PROS & CONS OF RAISING AN INFANT DURING A PANDEMIC + A FEW HOME DECOR UPGRADES

Let’s face it, 2020 was one of the strangest years to date. In 2019, I never would have thought I’d be at home as much as I am now, but then again, in 2019 I didn’t have an infant to care for and there was no COVID-19 and therefore, my schedule was jammed packed with things to do: graduating from grad school, pageant stuff, traveling, blogging and just living my best childless life, LOL. Staying at home all the time was definitely a foreign concept to me. Staying at home all the time with an infant was something new too. Almost 10 months of quarantine and counting and I can say there is some good and some bad, so here’s my list of pros and cons of raising an infant during a whole global pandemic. Also, these are just some random pics of my sweet Charleekins and hubby Charles and a few home decor upgrades for our bedroom.

Pro #1 FREE DAYCARE

What daycare? I’m not an essential worker and thankfully, I can do my entire job from home. What does that mean, I’m with Charlee at home, that means free daycare. Everyone knows daycare is crazy expensive, so staying home with my child is the most cost effective thing a new parent can do. There are so many dollars we have kept in our pocket because I’m home with the little one and thinking about all the money I’m saving is nice too.

Con #1 WORKING FULL-TIME WITH A BABY IS HARD

I love Charlee, I do, but being at home with a newborn all day is exhausting! As many of you know, newborns require a lot of attention. I didn’t mind too much in the beginning since I was on maternity leave and didn’t have to worry about work, but maternity leave ended in November and trying to work with a baby at home all day is probably the most challenging thing I’ve ever done. I will say this though, now that she’s officially 4 months an eating heavier meals, she’s sleeping for longer stretches so it’s not as bad.

Pro #2 TIME FOR SELF CARE

I have time for self care. Sometimes self care just means having time to just be home. Being quarantined there has been so much of that. I’ve really learned that self care should not only be intentional, but what really defines self care is just doing what you love. I’m doing what I love while Charlee sleeps and when she’s awake, I’m loving on her and that is a form of self care for me.

Con #2 CABIN FEVER

WE’RE. ALWAYS. HOME. I’ve had a few instances of cabin fever. It sometimes sucks being at home all day long and when you finally do leave you realize nothing is happening around you because, well, COVID, ugh. I want to travel again, I want to take Charlee out to see our city, see our family and friends. I want her to start being social with other people besides me and her dad, but again, COVID. Charlee’s health and safety come first, so until this pandemic clears up, I’ll be here, in the house, gazing out the window and reminiscing on life before COVID, LOL. 😂

Pro #3 WE’VE MADE OUR HOUSE A HOME

I’ve had time to make my house look like a place someone actually lives in. Here’s the thing, before Charlee and before COVID, my house was literally a place I just rested my head. Charles and I had the basics in our house and it was devoid of any home decor or items to make our house look lived in. We’ve since then cleaned up our act and started adding some personality to the spaces in our home, mostly motivated by the fact that we had to get rid of a lot of items and make room for the baby. Having a baby really encouraged us to make a space that was welcoming, homey and just an all around good space for her to grow up in.

Con #3 NO SPACE

Space is limited at our house right now. Charlee’s baby items take up so much space and because of the pandemic, we’ve opted not to move to a bigger space until we see economically, how things will pan our here in the US. We’ve chosen to stay put, pay off some debt and just purge the house of items we collected over the years that we really don’t need to make space for the items that Charlee uses regularly.

Pro #4 NO MORE FOMO

I feel less pressure to entertain these days. Pre COVID, I was dealing with some serious FOMO, Fear of Missing Out. That being said, I was going all over the place, celebrating major milestones with friends, going out every weekend with the girls, traveling here and there, attending this event and that event and blah blah blah. When COVID shut everything down, I felt this hidden anxiety melting away. Having Charlee slowed me down even more too. My life pre COVID would have never been practical with a newborn. Honestly, I’m not sure how I was functioning pre pandemic with all the things I was doing, LOL, but here we are. I’m resting, relaxing, reflecting and enjoying my little family.

Con #4 WE MISS FACE-TO-FACE INTERACTION

I. MISS. MY. FAMILY and FRIENDS. Being at home with an infant all day is a lot of work and some days the only social time I have. I love Charlee, I do, but I do miss interacting with people my own age. I do Zoom calls with my friends and family, but honestly, nothing will be able to replace face to face interaction and human touch. I for one am not a hugger, but being able to hug my friends and family would be priceless right about now.

Pro #5 WE SAVED A LOT AND REALIZED WE WERE BEING WASTEFUL

We have saved a lot of money. This has helped Charles and I realize that our lifestyle pre COVID was wasteful and not practical for a baby. When Charlee finally arrived, we had a nice nest egg saved up for her to get the things we needed to care for her on top of what was given to us by our amazing family, friends and coworkers. We’ve been extremely blessed and we are so grateful for all the financial blessings we received to welcome our sweet baby girl into the world this past August.

Con #5 NO REASON TO DRESS UP

Shopping is therapeutic for me and I love being able to go out and show off my outfits at work and on the weekends with my friends, but with COVID I’m not dressing up to go anywhere except to my kitchen and other places around the house and even then, I’m extremely careful about what I wear these days because baby spit up is real and will ruin your clothes, LOL. 😂. This is life with an infant. This is also life with an infant during a global pandemic.

Anyway, I hope you enjoyed my list. Here’s hoping this pandemic ends soon. I know we are all wanting to get back to some sense of normalcy and while I truly don’t believe it will ever truly be “normal” again I have hope that our country and the world will be able to recover from this and most importantly learn from this. There is beauty in hard times. Even during a pandemic, our sweet baby girl has been a light and while I have admitted it’s hard, nothing worth having comes easy. Okay, I’ll stop with all the cliches now and end by wishing you all a happy new year. Please stay safe out there and I wish you all good health and lots of happiness. Happy 2021!

By the way, our newest home project has been decluttering the upstairs and getting rid of items that make our space look less appealing. We’ve been adding little knick knacks here and there to spruce up our bedrooms upstairs so peep the pics from our master bedroom. More pics of the other rooms to come.

Till next time good people.

Sincerely,

Deidra Marie


2020 PUMPKIN PATCH ViSIT

Hi Everyone!

It’s been awhile since my last post. Taking care of an infant and back from maternity leave so I guess life just happened and I’m just living it. Just dropping by to share a few of my fall photos at the pumpkin patch with one of my faves. This was such a fun day and one of my first times out with friends since having my little Charleekins. Don’t worry, we were masked up the entire time with the exception of when we took photos. Every year I head out to DJ’s Berry Patch to capture some fall shots with a few of my blogger babes and I also shoot a lot of fall sessions out here for clients. This has been a strange year and the first year I haven’t shot a client at this location. I had a family session booked at this location, but because of COVID, the pumpkin patch closed early for the season and we had to relocate. If this isn’t a small description of what 2020 has been like, I don’t know what is. 2020 is the year of changed plans and improvising. Anyway, I hope you enjoy these photos. We had a lot fun shooting them and what’s fall without a visit to at least one pumpkin patch, right? 😊

Coming soon to the blog, I’ll be counting down Christmas with a few of my fave holiday looks I put together for 2020. Also, later this week, I’ll be sharing a few of my fall family photos. For those who have been following along for awhile, you know I take one family photo with everyone at my house in the back yard every year on Thanksgiving Day. Well, COVID means the only family photo I got this year was one of me, hubby and baby C, so needless to say, Thanksgiving was a little different this year, but happy to have shared it with the two loves of my life in a safe and healthy way.

See you all back here soon! Stay safe and healthy y’all!

Sincerely,

Deidra Marie


FAMILY TIME IN BALLANTYNE PART I

Charles and I celebrated 10 years of marriage this past weekend. Oddly enough it doesn’t feel like it’s been a decade of adventures with this dude. I guess time flies when you’re having fun. In any case, we booked a last minute trip to Charlotte, North Carolina for the weekend and decided our little lovebug, Charlee should tag along. Granted she won’t remember anything about this trip, it’s nice to see her happy and I’m just grateful to be spending time with my little family before my maternity leave ends this week coming. Can you even believe it’s been 10 weeks? I know I can’t. So far we’ve spent a majority of time lounging around in our hotel bed, snapping pics, eating, watching television and just enjoying playing with our little Char Char. This was our first time staying at the The Ballantyne Charlotte. The customer service has been awesome, we had the tastiest breakfast and the room is so cozy; I guess that explains we really haven’t left. We were only suppose to stay for one night, but ended up extending our stay to enjoy some more family time.

We up ended doing some thrift shopping late in the afternoon. Then we had to stop by Target to get Charlee some new clothes because she literally messed up every piece of clothing we packed for her. Even with a bib she still manages to get milk spit and whatever else on her nicest outfits. This is life traveling with a newborn, lol. Kind of happy I spent 7 bucks on a pack of white onesies and not hundreds of bucks because newborns are messy messy humans with no regard for clothing preservation, lol. Did I mention Charlee enjoyed every plush pillow in the room? All she wanted to do was lounge on the bed, sounds about like her mom, lol. 😂 I can’t wait until she can talk see we can go back and forth with commentary on our latest Netflix binge watch. Keep scrolling for lounging pics with Charlee.

After many ours of lounging around in bed, playing with Charlee, snapping pics, talking and watching television, we finally decided it was time to eat, so we ordered some cheap Chinese food from down the street. I couldn’t be happier to just be chilling with my little family and enjoying some good quality time. COVID has stopped a lot things from happening in 2020, but one thing it didn’t do was stop me from valuing quality family time, in fact it gave me more time to think about family and how much it truly means to me. Since having Charlee, family time has a whole new meaning these days. It’s about the little things. I use to be all hung up on getting out, doing excursions and exploring the world, but now it’s just about spending time with the fam, getting to know my loved ones on a deeper level and just living life with out time restrictions and distractions. I’m going back to work with a new perspective. My family is everything to me and I want my daughter to feel loved all the time. I want her to know that family comes first and spending time together is a priority in our household. Work is great, hanging out with my friends is great, but my family means more.

Stay tuned for part two of my stay at in Ballantyne.

Till next time friends.

Sincerely,

Deidra Marie