MY POST PREGNANCY SKINCARE ROUTINE FEATURING NURIA BEAUTY AND SACRED MAMA ORGANICS

I have to admit, I wasn’t expecting my skin to change as dramatically as it did post pregnancy, but it did. About a month after having my little one I started to notice the texture of my skin change. I lost that pregnancy glow over time and my skin started to be rough to the touch and there were a few dry patchy spots on my forehead and around my mouth and chin. I hadn’t changed anything in my routine or change any of the skincare products I was using so I was unsure what exactly was happening to my skin. After a bit of research, I found out that your skin can become very dry and patchy after having a child due to hormonal shifts. Some women even report their skin losing that tightness or firmness it once had. So you know me, I’m not about that life. I figured the best way to combat all the post pregnancy skin issues would be to change up my skincare routine, so for the past week or so I’ve added two new skincare products to my routine. Keep scrolling for more…

Currently, I do a simple cleanse with the Nuria Purifying Cleanser. I follow-up by moisturizing with the Nuria Calm Daily Moisturizer. I’m currently using witch hazel to tone and the Nuria Facial Mist to refresh throughout the day. I also started using the Sacred Mama Organics Beauty Oil to protect and use as a preventive measure for anti-aging. All of these products are new to my beauty stash and have provided great results over the past week. The patchy spots on my forehead, around my mouth and chin have cleared up and my skin again feels soft to the touch. I’m noticing that if I perform this process twice a day (once in the morning and once at night) my skin stays moisturized and the breakouts I was having on my face don’t happen as often. As I have mentioned in past blogposts, I do have eczema. My eczema hasn’t flared up in years, but unfortunately, after having my little one I started to see some flare ups on my shoulders , arms and my back. I started using my baby’s Tubby Todd All Over Ointment and that has helps clear up the breakouts in those areas. If you’re a mom you know all to well about stretch marks. I’ve been using my Earth Kissed Beauty Mother Nature Nourishing Butter which is great for postpartum use.

I think it’s good to switch out your skincare products and change up your routine every now and then. I think with our bodies constantly changing over time, you have to choose products that are conducive to the change. I wasn’t expecting my skin to change so dramatically after pregnancy, but making the transition to new product lines and mixing them with some old faithful products that have been in my skincare routine for years is awesome and it’s not so bad. It was actually a pretty easy transition if you ask me. After having a baby in 2020 you learn very quickly to adjust to all life has to throw at you and my skincare routine is no exception to that. Here’s to change and making smooth transitions.

Till next time.

Sincerely,

Deidra Marie


MY FAVORITE THRIFT/VINTAGE SHOPS 2020

Deidra is my name and thrifting is my game. In case you’re new to the blog, you should know I’m all about the thrift. I love finding old original pieces. The main reason I started this blog was to be apart of the mission to reduce waste and shop sustainably. One of the ways I do this is by shopping second hand. Believe it or not, the US is facing a major over supply of items in thrift shops. The best way to help alleviate this issue is to shop thrift and vintage. Every time you shop second hand pieces that’s one less item taking up space in a local thrift store. It’s a great way to reduce inventory in stores and the amount of items being dumped and forgotten about in landfills all over the country.

Want to get started on your thrifting journey? Check out a few of my 2020 favorite local thrift stores and online stores at the lists below:

Online Vintage/Thrift Shops

I’ve linked all the Instagram handles to my favorite online vintage and thrift shops. Every single shop has dope vintage pieces, most of which are 90’s pieces that are bright, colorful and bold.

LongLivVintage

The Cru Look

Felicia Faye Vintage

Thrifted Finds and Coffee Grinds

Connie J Vintage Finds

Washington Avenue

The Dream Vintage

Brass Buttons Velvet Ropes

Vintijkandi

Keep scrolling for a list of all my favorite local vintage/thrift shops…

Local Thrifts

Thrift 2 Gift

Definitely a spot you must know about. It’s tucked away a few minutes from NC State campus. I’ve found a lot gems in this spot. It’s the ultimate thrift spot and great if you’re looking for a quite shopping experience

Goodwill

Do I even need to explain this one? There are Goodwill’s all over the country and you can really never go wrong with a trip to this spot.

Raleigh Rescue Mission

I have found so many vintage pieces in this location that I’ll treasure forever. They also sell dishes, furniture and just a whole bunch of random stuff you may appreciate.

Plato’s Closet

For those looking for second hand name brand items at a low cost this is the spot for you. They have a lot of different name brands for men and women. I even found a cute pair of unworn Tory Burch flats from here at a great price!

Clothes Mentor

This is definitely a spot to find women’s second hand wear to work pieces. I’ve gotten a lot of work pieces from here that are tailored, clean and great for the office. Some of the brands I’ve snagged from this spot include Loft, Ann Taylor, Talbots, The Limited, Jones New York just to name a few.

Cause for Paws Thrift Shop

This spot is right up the street from my house and a few minutes away from Downtown. I can always find the most unique clothing pieces and I’ve gotten some vintage dishes that I restored out of this shop as well.

The Salvation Army Family Store and Donation Center

This is another spot that never fails me. I’ve found some cute blazers from the 80’s in this store and it’s conveniently right up the street from my house.

Uptown Cheapskate

I’ve scored big at this spot on several occasions. I can always find the cutest skirts and tops and I’ve donated a lot of pieces to this store as well. They carry brands like H&M, Forever 21, Charlotte Russe, American Eagle and list goes on.

I hope this list is helpful.

Happy shopping.

Till next time.

Sincerely,

Deidra Marie


BIRTH STORY

Hi all! It’s been a hot minute hasn’t it? My apologies for going ghost these past few months. The third trimester really wore me the heck out and Charlee decided to come a few days early. I told myself I wasn’t going to share my birth story on the blog, mostly because I felt it was so personal, so private and that it didn’t need to be shared with the world, but I really took the time for my hormones to level out before making any major decisions about how or even if I would talk on the topic. After some soul searching, I decided that sharing may help other new moms/expecting moms. This is really a community of women that are winging it just like me and there is no shame in sharing your experience if you know it will help someone else. I was fortunate to have so many positive women in my corner who were open to sharing their pregnancy experiences and their birth stories and my how it helped me navigate pregnancy and now motherhood. So let’s get it…

Charlee Marie Craig was born August 21, 2020 at approximately 12:27am. My water broke the night before and after a few minutes of convincing my husband that it was actually my water breaking, he packed the car and we headed straight to the hospital. Because of COVID, I had to stay in triage until I took a COVID test. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we are living in strange times that even in labor, COVID-19 test have to be administered. So grateful the hospital is taking so many precautions. Only a few hours into labor the contractions were moderate. They weren’t excruciating, in fact, I was able to hold meaningful conversations with all my labor nurses and the on call docs. I remember getting the epidural around 1:30PM. The doc came in to check on me and I was only a few centimeters dilated. They loaded me up with pitocin for several hours to get my contractions stronger and push labor along, but I couldn’t get past 4cm. I remember asking the doc what the chances were of me getting a c-section (definitely not apart of my birth plan) and she said 50/50 chance. After 11 hours of labor my birth plan went out the window. The epidural stopped working on my right side and I was in extreme pain, my blood pressure had dropped extremely low and I could barely keep my eyes open. The doc came in and said I had to have a c-section and I was balling tears. I kept repeating to the doc that I was terrified, that I had never had surgery before and never planned on it, that I read and researched all the risks, and followed all that by saying I wasn’t questioning her abilities, but that I was just scared. The doc was calm, reassuring, she talked to me very carefully about the surgery and somewhere in the back of my mind I remember knowing everything she said because I had prepared myself prior too with extensive birthing classes. PS. I highly recommend birthing classes. Then it all clicked, the instructor from my birth classes said NEVER call it a birth plan because plans imply it will happen exactly how you planned, instead call it birth wishes, these are requests that are subject to change, in other words, you understand and accept that things change, period. It all clicked, I planned for a vaginal, but that changed. I remember sitting up as far as I could in the hospital bed, looking at the doctor, wiping my tears, swallowing the fear and saying, “let’s just do it, do whatever you have to do, I trust you.”  It was at that point that I realized my plans don’t mean a thing, God’s plan is what matters. Feelings of doubt, the thought that I might die, the thought that perhaps bringing a child into the world was not the right decision began to dissipate. It was at that point that I surrendered. I had calmed the chaos in my head and focused on staying alive and getting through a surgery where I’d be awake the entire time.  I remember hearing my baby cry, I took a quick glimpse at her before they whisked her away to get weighed and do all the things, I remember the sound of them stapling me back up, looking at my husband because I had a weird sensation and thought I couldn’t breath. The drugs wore off on the right side of my body again I could feel them operating. After it was all over I was wheeled to another room where they gave me medication for my uncontrollable shakes and chills. Soon after I finally got to hold Charlee. The labor nurses and the doctor and the whole hospital team were with me from beginning to end coaching me through one of the most traumatic experiences of my life and for that I’m so grateful.

Much like my so called birth plan, this is pretty much how I’ve been seeing 2020. I had plans for 2020 and I’m sure all of us did, but that went out the window and all I can do is exactly what I did in the hospital: sit up, wipe my tears away and say “let’s just do it, do whatever you have to do, I trust you.” I refuse to make any more plans, I have things I want to happen, wishes so to speak, but Charlee’s birth has taught me that everything won’t go according to plan, no matter how organized you are, how diligent you are, how prepared you are, and that’s okay. I’m okay. What will be will be. Let’s be real, I was scared out of my mind, but God set it up in way that there weren’t many options for me, I had to face my fears and deal with the fact that nothing was in my control. I had to let go and trust the process and trust that the decisions God was making for me were the best ones. A couple of days after birth, I talked with one of the doctors who said Charlee’s shoulders were very broad and that I had a curved pelvis and that had I had Charlee vaginally,  she could have got stuck in the pelvis and she could have been delivered with a broken arm or clavicle. That day, I was taught to trust the process, today I trust the process, from now on I trust the process.

Expecting mothers and mothers to be, just trust the process.

Looking forward to sharing post on motherhood and about my sweet Charleekins. She’s a doll baby and I am enjoying watching her grow and take in the world. There is nothing like motherhood, absolutely nothing like it.

Till next time.

Sincerely,

Deidra Marie