WINE AND DESIGN AND SISTER TIME

Wine and Design
Cary, NC
Cool wine bottles with Christmas lights
Starfish
Ready to paint
But first, let me take a selfie
And one more selfie for good luck
Humble beginnings 
Pink and black
Black brush strokes
Colorful paints
Painting the body
Me stressing
Sister love
Finally complete
Create 
Danny’s painting 
The finished product
And here I thought the birthday festivities were complete but my sister Danny took me to my first wine and design party. We decided to design and not wine because we both had work in the morning. I must say, for my first time painting, I’m surprised at how Oscar turned out. Yes, I named the elephant Oscar, I name everything Oscar though. Don’t ask. Anyhow, this was not your average wine and design session, there were a group of girls who attended to celebrate their friends birthday and lets just say they did more wining than designing. The birthday girl placed her brand new party clothes on a counter top near some candles and all of her clothes set on fire. Thankfully, a young gentleman sitting close to the counter top was able to put the fire out in time but all of her brand new clothes were ruined. I suggest designing then wining if you decide to participate in an activity like this. It was a good laugh to say the least.

It was awesome getting to spend time with my sister. We both work so much so it’s rare we have time to just hang out, relax and catch up. I realized though that painting is not therapeutic for me. I was stressed! I mean literally stressing out because I wanted to stay in the lines and mix my colors correctly. I relaxed after the painting was complete and I was semi satisfied with the results. Apparently I’m a perfectionist, never thought of myself as such until I started painting but me and Danny plan on attending again and I plan on chilling out and just letting the brush strokes flow. I probably won’t unless we wine as well. Now I understand why you must wine while you design because people tend to over work their paintings and are stressed trying to make sure it’s perfect.

Nevertheless,the instructors were great and we got to meet some pretty cool people. This was a great way to complete my birthday! I suggest everyone attend a wine and design and set their clothes on fire.

If your in the area, please check out Wine and Design:

483 James Jackson Ave
Cary, NC

Till next time.

Sincerely,

Deidra Marie

DIVINE 29

It’s the last year of my 20’s and I have never felt more amazing and more alive! 29 will be AWESOME! It’s early but I’ve already received Happy Birthday phone calls and social media messages and texts from so many loved ones, family, friends and associates. My heart is warmed with love, heck even my Mac computer woke me up and said Happy Birthday. 
I’d like to say that I’ve heard so many negative things about turning 29, that 29 was an age that did not sit well with many people. People have told me they’ve felt that at 29 they had not reached the pinnacle in their career, or that they thought they’d be married with kids in a white house with a cute fence and rose garden or that they simply felt like they didn’t have their life together. Maybe all of that’s true; maybe your not in your dream job, maybe you don’t have children yet, maybe you still haven’t found yourself, maybe you haven’t found the love of your life- so what! This is your journey, your life and the beauty of this is that it won’t be like anyone Else’s. 
You are uniquely set apart and cannot travel the same path as anyone else. I’m the first to say I’m not where I want to be in life or I’m not where I imagined I should be but WHO CARES. I will continue to let God order my steps because if I do it my way I will make a royal mess of it all. Trust me,we are all just trying to figure it out and if your not wandering trying to figure it out then your simply comfortable and comfortable is BORING! Now that doesn’t mean I want to spend life questioning what’s next, it just means I don’t want to spend my life worried all the time. I don’t want to spend my life manipulating things to reach a goal that was never really mine to begin with. I don’t want anything that is not destine for me. I just go with the flow. 29 is the year of flow. I just let it ride and can’t wait to see what the ends going to be. I’m no stranger to surprises so this is easy peezy.
For all my late 20’s and 30 somethings out there: Let if flow!
Thanks for all the birthday love. Now off I go to make this day absolutely awesome and every other day of 29 awesome too! 🙂
Sincerely, 
Deidra Marie 

WHAT’S THE DEAL WITH THIS PROTEIN?

A 4 day old bantu-knot out (It is very clear my hair looks dry, porous, flat and lacked bounce. I needed a protein treatment bad. Usually my bantu-knot outs have elongated bouncy well-defined curls)
2 day old bantu-knot out. My hair has a perfect protein-moisture balance with lots of bounce, shine and definition
Protein MUST be included in my hair regimen! It is absolutely, positively one of the most valuable practices of many naturals hair routines; mine included. To the eye, my hair seems course and strong but in actuality I have highly dense fine to medium strands. I have some random strands in the front that are course but I would say about 75% of my head is covered in fine to medium strands that are easily damaged. Yes, i’m apart of the fine haired club. I still struggle with the balance between moisture and full volume. In some cases, I must choose between the two. I’m still hunting for the best product combo that will provide completely moisturized strands and full volume all at the same time.
Fine to medium hair requires a great deal of attention:
1. Gentle detangling sessions
2. Lightweight styling products
3. Minimal use of oils or light oils (Grapeseed Oil, Jojoba Oil)
4. Protective styling
5. PROTEIN PROTEIN PROTEIN
I try to do everything on this list but most importantly, I focus on a strict protein application regimen. I’ve tried a few protein treatments and stumbled across a few staples that I incorporate into my regimen every 6-8 weeks, right around the time I’m due for a dusting session. A protein application brings the bounce back to my curls and strengthens each strand. Lately I’ve been using the following protein treatments:
1. Giovanni Smooth as Silk Protein Hair Infusion
2. Aphogee Green Tea Reconstructer
When I don’t have time to sit under a hair dryer for a protein boost, I spray a bit of the Green Tea Reconstructer before styling and my hair instantly feels stronger and the curls pop and have instant definition. When I do have time, I use the Smooth as Silk Hair Infusion. This protein treatment is light and can be used daily. I don’t use it daily but I assure you this treatment really reaches the cortex of each strand to repair everyday wear and tear. Like the Green Tea reconstructer, this treatment makes my curls pop and provides instant curl definition with just one application.
In addition to the protein treatments I use, I try to purchase conditioners, co-washes and leave-ins that have a small amount of protein to be used in between treatments. The goal is to keep my delicate strands strong resulting in minimal breakage and hair shed. I’ve accepted that hair will break and shed but I try to do my part to reduce the amount of shed and breakage.

 

If your wondering, I listen to my hair; typically I know I’m due for a protein treatment when my dry curls don’t bounce back after being pulled or when wet, the curls look limp and flat. Of course this test won’t work for everybody as every curl isn’t made equally. I have extremely coily-curly hair in the back and a loose wave in the front, so in the front, if it doesn’t bounce back when dry then I know it’s time for a treatment. Some people will notice their hair feels mushy when wet or extremely dry when dry. That is another indicator that there is a moisture-protein issue.
Hope this information helps my fine and medium haired curlies out there. Good luck on your quest to full volume and juicy curls.

Till next time.

Sincerely,

Deidra Marie